Wedding Guest Etiquette

RSVP PROMPTLY

Once you receive an invitation, respond as soon as possible. Couples need to finalize headcounts for catering, seating arrangements, and other logistics. We know you need time to check your calendar and plan, but two weeks before the event is not the correct time to let the couple or planner know if you’re attending, unless dire circumstances dictate that.

If the invitation specifies a “plus one” or “no children,” respect their wishes and don’t assume exceptions. And when in doubt…ask first! Often, restrictions are not about personal preferences but due to venue policies, safety concerns (such as water hazards), or logistical constraints. Similarly, regarding plus-ones, consider that weddings are costly, and the couple has every right to curate their guest list—including ensuring their wedding photos reflect those closest to them rather than unfamiliar faces.

DRESS FOR THE OCCASION

Check the dress code on the invitation or wedding website. If in doubt, aim for elegant and polished attire that suits the setting —whether it’s a black-tie affair or a casual beach ceremony. One golden rule: never wear white unless explicitly requested! And please allow me to also say this… NO JEANS EVER!

And if you really want to go the extra mile for the couple, take note of their wedding colour palette and location, and dress accordingly. There’s nothing more jarring than requesting guests wear neutral tones, only for someone to show up in neon pink! (Yes, it happens more often than you’d think, and yes—it’s still disrespectful to the couple’s wishes.)

You don’t need to buy an entirely new outfit, but making an effort to align with their vision shows consideration and respect. After all, no one wants to be the guest who sticks out like a sore thumb in every wedding photo.

ARRIVE ON TIME!

Tardiness can disrupt the ceremony, so plan to arrive at least 15-30 minutes early. If you do happen to be late, wait for an appropriate break in the proceedings before quietly taking a seat.

If there is a wedding planner on site you will spot them on the sidelines (or a venue coordinator). Ask them to signal the appropriate time to enter and where to wait so that you don’t cause distractions to the vows being exchanged and interrupt the atmosphere of the ceremony.

Many guests do not realize that should we have to delay the ceremony start time, it affects the entire rest of the afternoon and evening. Believe me when I say, we want to get you to the social fun bits as much as you want to be there!

RESPECT THE CEREMONY

The ceremony is the heart of the wedding day. Put your phone on silent (or better yet, turn it off) and be fully present. If the couple requests an “unplugged ceremony,” honour their wishes by keeping your phone tucked away and letting the professional photographer capture the moment.

It is truly horrendous when a photographer and videographer are trying to capture every lovely moment and you’re in the aisle waving your phone in the way and restricting their view. It’s the couple that suffers in the end. So please just put your phone away!

SOCIAL MEDIA ETIQUETTE

Before posting pictures of the wedding, check if the couple has a social media policy. Some prefer to share their day on their terms, while others encourage guests to use a specific hashtag. Always be respectful and avoid posting unflattering or overly personal moments.

ENJOY BUT DON’T OVERINDULGE

Weddings are a time for celebration, and that includes delicious food and drinks. Enjoy yourself, but know your limits—especially if there’s an open bar. No one wants to be the guest who gets too carried away and needs to be escorted out! Be mindful of the open bar policy. Many times, when you’re not paying for the drinks, guests tend to waste A LOT. Finish your drink then get another, and be respectful to the couple paying for everyone and not wasteful of their generosity.

RESPECT THE TIMELINE AND MOMENTS

Stick around for key moments like the first dance and cake cutting, but also be mindful of when it’s time to leave.

Don’t be the guest who yells out inappropriate things when speeches are happening or talks amongst themselves when a toast is being given (I cannot stress how much I hate this!). Be present. You were invited because you are loved, and the couple wants you to be a part of their celebration. So please do so mindfully.